Can We Talk?
No one wants to talk about aging, I get it.
While I understand the reluctance, I also know that eventually, you will be forced to face the fact that you are growing older. Aging is inevitable, and we’re all heading in the same direction. Some paths are smooth, some bumpy, and for others it feels like you’ve been thrown off a boat without a life preserver.
When I first meet families, they are often in crisis. Rarely does my phone ring when someone is looking for ways to enhance longevity and prepare for the future. However, I am here to advise you if you want to talk about that! When I was young in my career, I was determined to help individuals see the value of wellness as their secret tool to combat diseases and disability often associated with aging. I quickly learned that most people weren’t interested, and they believed that growing old was some vague idea they could ignore and deny.
So, can we talk?
According to a survey by the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP, more than half (55%) of family caregivers report avoiding conversations about their aging loved ones' wishes for end-of-life care. This avoidance often stems from discomfort, fear of conflict, or uncertainty about approaching the topic.
Understandably, these conversations can be challenging, but they are crucial for ensuring that the care provided aligns with the older adult's preferences and needs. Have you had any experiences with this kind of situation?
Are you caring for someone growing older and want to be prepared to successfully navigate the possibilities that advancing age might bring?
Or are you aging and want to talk with your adult children about your vision and expectations for your final years of life?
Tips for Starting the Conversation
- Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a quiet, comfortable setting without distractions. Timing is crucial; avoid discussing the topic during stressful times or family gatherings.
- Be Honest and Direct: Approach the conversation with honesty and clarity. Express your concerns and intentions openly.
- Listen Actively: Show empathy and understanding by listening to their feelings and concerns. Validate their emotions and avoid interrupting.
- Start Small: Gradually introduce the topic instead of diving into deep discussions right away. Begin with smaller, related topics and build from there.
- Use "I" Statements: Frame your concerns from your perspective to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, "I've noticed some changes, and I'm worried about your safety" instead of "You need to move to a safer place.
- Involve your Aging Advisor: an objective third party like a family therapist, social worker, or geriatric care manager can facilitate the conversation and provide guidance.
- Be Patient and Respectful: Understand that these conversations can take time and may require multiple discussions. Respect their pace and decisions.
Ready to Navigate the Aging Journey with Confidence?
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